8 Common Problems with Online Dating
Common Problems with Surface Level Digital Dating
Digital dating has many pros and cons when you compare it to conventional dating. While it can be more convenient and easier to meet people, talking over text can have a lot of issues that can make it hard to communicate well and move on into an actual relationship.
So, without further ado, here are the 8 Common Problems with Online Dating
Catfishing
Nope, obviously not the one in the photo.
One of the most common issues you might run into while dating online is catfishing. Catfishing refers to when someone’s profile and pictures aren’t the same as who they actually are.
You might find someone’s profile pictures attractive, only to meet them in person and see that they look nothing like that because the picture is old, or sometimes not even who you thought they were at all.
People often make catfish profiles because they lack confidence in how they look. Catfishing can be challenging to spot because you’re only looking at pictures they choose and talking through text.
If they put up fake pictures that they found somewhere else, you might have no way of knowing just by looking at it. Now, what you can do is try to use a reverse image search to see if those pictures come up from any profiles that don’t match up.
When you find out that you’ve been catfished, the best option to take is to cut contact with them.
How to Spot Catfishing Online
They don’t want to do video chatting or simply never want to show their faces.
If they seem serious, but strictly want to keep to written communication or phone calls. They agree to meet in‐person but repeatedly have reasons pop up to prevent them from doing so.
If you are both truly interested, request an interaction within first to the second week that would show their faces. Since it’s online a video call will do.
If they refuse, have habitual excuses, or never respond, delete the connection, unmatch him/her and be glad you saved yourself time and pain.
Not using social media or it was just created a few weeks or days ago.
Having a social media account these days doesn’t guarantee someone’s identity. Yet, if their account was just made a few weeks or days ago, shows few friends and fewer posts and there’s not a single photo they are tagged with, then there’s a huge possibility that they are a catfish.
They seem too good to be true.
You know the old adage: if it seems too good to be true, it probably is. Does every picture look perfectly modeled and flawless? Or do they only have one Take these as warning signs and proceed with caution—they may be a catfish.
They ask for money.
This is a major red flag. If they start asking for money even though you haven’t met them in person yet, block them immediately. Never give money online to a person you never met, or know. Never ever give them your bank or card information as well.
Wrong grammar.
If they claim to be from an English-speaking country but there’s evidence that they have little command of the language, don’t be afraid to ask more questions. When it seems like you might be on to them, a catfish will typically end communication and look for someone else to scam.
They have sumptuous stories.
Whether they are trying to gain your pity or your money, catfishers know how to pull on emotional heartstrings. Tales like trauma from the camera, that’s why they can’t show themselves in front of the camera.
Ghosting
Another common problem that you’ll likely run into is what’s called ghosting. Ghosting is when someone you’re talking to suddenly stops all communication with you, and you’re left with a totally dead conversation.
This can be really discouraging because you might think that a conversation is going really well until all communication stops. People have all kinds of different reasons for ghosting, whether they lose interest or get nervous, but it has a more significant effect on the recipient of the ghosting.
The best thing that you can do if you get ghosted is just to move on. If someone couldn’t even give you the decency of telling you they’re not interested, then they weren’t right for you in the first place, right?
Unsolicited Dick Pics
You can’t talk about online dating without talking about dick pics. I, myself, even received a lot of unsolicited photos of their little John. You may wonder what they were thinking when they send those. Do they honestly think women/men sit around, looking longingly at pictures of their Johnson?
Again, the right thing to do is to report and block them immediately.
Stalkers, Pedophiles, Murderers & Other Predators
Sounds scary, right? But since you cannot see who you are talking to, there’s a possibility that the Prince Charming you were talking to just want you on his trunk.
To avoid this, read this one: Online Dating Safety Tips for 2020
There are too many options.
Options on what? Men? Women? Well, before that, the first dilemma you’ll work with is that you have too many options for dating sites.
Luckily, we have the article for the top 10 dating sites you might find your soulmate on.
There are too many options…yes, again.
Because there are too many options, you have the tendency to face more rejection more frequently.
In the real world, people typically face rejection one person at a time, but in online dating, that rejection can be multiplied with every swipe and message. There’s a reason ghosting has become so common in the dating scene. It’s easy to just…disappear without long explanations.
Remember, millions of singles are using dating websites, and there’s no way they could all like you. And like you, they have a lot of options as well.
Scams everywhere.
There are a lot of scams going on online—ranging from identity theft, fake emergencies, phishing, and business investments. It’s no secret that the nasty people in the world who want to hurt the trusting ones — especially if they’re in a vulnerable situation such as being single and feeling lonely — ruin everything for them.
To avoid this, read this one: Online Dating Safety Tips for 2020
There are more people with extra baggage.
Singles who have unresolved issues from past relationships, married men/women who were in a dysfunctional relationship, and other kinds of people with extra baggage are drawn to online dating to ease the pain.
They were usually not looking for something serious and will probably be looking for some rebound. Watch out!
These problems and others can make it difficult to find a legitimate relationship through online dating apps and sites, but with enough perseverance, you can work through them.
It’s natural to be suspicious of certain accounts when you’re dating online, so be sure to verify people’s identities before you ever meet up with them in person. Not everyone is exactly who they say they are, which can lead to a lot of awkward moments on a first date.
